The Man in the Glass: What This Poem Teaches Us About Leadership & Self-Acceptance
In leadership, one of the toughest challenges is staying true to who you are, especially when external pressures mount.
The Man in the Glass, a poem written by Dale Wimbrow in 1934, offers a powerful lens into the heart of self-awareness and authenticity. Still recited in military and coaching circles today, its message resonates across time, reminding us that the person we ultimately answer to isn’t our boss, our peers, or our audience, but the one in the mirror.
What Does It Mean to Honour the ‘Man in the Glass’?
What constitutes self-acceptance is different for everyone. But a universal question worth asking is:
“Do I stay true to my values, every day?”
Your values might include loyalty, mindfulness, honesty, or a quiet commitment to follow through on a challenge. Whatever they are, they must be honoured to live in alignment and free of guilt.
Why This Poem Still Resonates with Leaders
The Man in the Glass is often read aloud in military environments, where extreme decisions demand deep personal integrity. In high-stakes roles, values are more than abstract ideas — they’re survival tools.
But this isn’t just about the battlefield. It’s about boardrooms, classrooms, and teams under pressure.
At times, we all get wrapped up in trying to impress others, win validation, or fit in. We may act out of character, chasing recognition or approval. But those moments are fleeting. The only person who stays with you, always, is the one in the mirror.
The Full Poem: The Man in the Glass
When you get what you want in your struggle for self
And the world makes you king for a day
Just go to the mirror and look at yourself
And see what that man has to say.For it isn’t your father, or mother, or wife
Whose judgement upon you must pass
The fellow whose verdict counts most in your life
Is the one staring back from the glass.He’s the fellow to please – never mind all the rest
For he’s with you, right to the end
And you know you have passed the most difficult of tests
If the man in the glass is your friend.You may fool the whole world down the pathway of years
And get pats on the back as you pass
But your final reward will be heartache and tears
If you’ve cheated the man in the glass.
Where This Meets Modern Leadership
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